Major life dilemmas

Understanding the pros and cons of an important decision is only one aspect of facing a major dilemma.

My approach: We’ll explore the decisional balance: the pros and cons of each path. Not just logically, but emotionally. We’ll slow things down so you can hear what your deeper self wants, clarify your values, and uncover the fears or pressures that may be muddying the waters. This isn’t about advice-giving: it’s about helping you make a decision you can live with, even if it’s hard.

I don’t tell my clients what to do—I help them learn how to choose for themselves with confidence and build the strength to handle the consequences.

Difficulty making changes

Maybe it’s going to the gym, eating healthier, or reducing your alcohol intake.

You want to change, but something keeps pulling you back to old habits. The voice of resistance is loud and familiar. You may be wondering if there’s something wrong with you—or if you just don’t have enough willpower.

My approach: We explore the why behind the stuckness. Therapy can help you map out the internal conflict (the part of you that wants change, and the part that resists it), work through shame or self-blame, and build a path toward real, sustainable change. We’ll use tools from Motivational Interviewing, parts work, or behavioral psychology to help you understand—and work with—your resistance, not against it.

Relationship patterns

Do you notice yourself getting attached too quickly, or avoiding closeness altogether? Are you in a stalemate with your current partner, and don’t know how to restore the relationship you used to have? Are you chasing unavailable people? Have you given up on dating?

My approach: We’ll explore your relationship dynamics and attachment style. By increasing awareness of your patterns, we can start to create space for different choices, and ultimately healthier relationships. We may draw on attachment theory, relational therapy, and parts work, depending on what resonates with you

Going through the motions

From the outside, your life looks fine, but inside, you feel disconnected, uninspired, or like something’s missing. You might think, “I should be happy,” and yet, here you are.

My approach:
We’ll explore what meaning and purpose look like for you. Using existential and humanistic approaches, we’ll examine your values, your sense of identity, and the story you’ve been living. This isn’t about quick fixes—it’s about discovering something deeper and more fulfilling.

Your toughest critic: you.

Your inner voice is harsh. You hold yourself to impossible standards, and even small mistakes feel like failures. You may struggle with self-compassion and feel like you’re never doing enough.

My approach: We’ll identify the roots of this inner critic—where it came from, what it’s trying to protect you from—and begin to develop a more compassionate internal dialogue. We might use parts work, CBT, creative exercises, and mindfulness-based strategies to loosen the grip of perfectionism and help you cultivate a gentler relationship with yourself.